We live in a world where everything relies on everything else to define itself. Everything is part of an intricate system of interconnectedness. Everything is interdependent and cannot exist alone. We humans are no exception.
All of our suffering (except for physical pain) comes from identification. Identifying ourselves with something. The identification makes us so attached to who we tell ourselves we are, that if any of that diminishes or falls away, we go into suffering. We feel so attached to these beliefs of who we are that we feel like we lose (part of) ourselves, should we lose any of them.
It’s the age-old struggle between generalists and specialists. Which one is better? Is it better to be mediocre to good at a lot of things, or exceptional at one thing? In the end, it is all about your goals and continuous improvement.
We often get blame and responsibility mixed up, which leads to a very disempowering belief: “if we take responsibility for something, we also admit that we are to blame for it.” This is, of course, not always true, but more importantly, it’s irrelevant.
Did you know our minds can only have one thought at a time? Even when we think we are thinking of multiple things at once, it’s just one thought after another. These thoughts come so fast and succeed each other so smoothly that it can seem like it's just one big thought. How we can use this fact to our advantage will become apparent when we look at negative thoughts.
Are you tired of feeling irritated standing in barely moving rows of cars every day? Tired of getting annoyed by someone cutting you off? Tired of feeling like you're pouring hours a week down the drain on your commute? Or are you just generally tired of wasting time in traffic no matter what the circumstances? Then I might just have a useful suggestion for you.
Kindness, or being kind, is not a genetic trait that stays the same from birth to death. It is a skill, and like all other skills, it is something we can get better at by practicing it. It does however require conscious practice, attention and care to cultivate.
People often talk about there only being one objective reality and that every viewpoint that contradicts this reality is therefore wrong. If this were true, that would mean that this would be the only way anybody could see things. Which clearly isn’t the case.
Language, words, communication have always been a part of me, no matter what stage of my life I was in. However, I also realized I never made a conscious choice about this. It was just there